Last week a client came back to me and told me that he understood the meaning of gratitude, and this enlightened him in his relationship with his wife.
Back in 2022, he attended one of my workshops on “How to make Better Judgment” (http://mytreeof.life/hesed), and in that workshop I introduced an exercise on gratitude. The exercise was as follows:
Every day, write a few lines of GRATITUDE for the GOOD in your life (at all levels) that testify to the presence of Divine Providence in your life, and note (at the end of the month) the benefit you received from this exercise.
Unfortunately, he could not find good words to express his gratitude, and he did not do this exercise well. He lacked motivation because he could not see the benefit of this exercise.
However, a few days ago he had a small argument with his wife. On the whole, I have to say that he is doing well in his relationship, he spends a good time with his wife, but they sometimes argue. Each time they know how to overcome the conflict, mostly through communication. It’s good to know how to resolve a conflict, but it’s better not to avoid it.
During the argument with his wife, she said that sometimes he says many negative things about her, but she cannot hear him saying good things about her. She asked him: How good I was in your eyes? From that moment, a light went on for him and he remembered the practice of gratitude. He knows now why it is important to do this practice and the benefits it brings.
What are the benefits of writing a few lines of gratitude every day?
- Increased positivity: Focusing on the good things in your life can help you feel more positive and optimistic. Writing down what you are grateful for each day can help shift your mindset and focus on the positive aspects of your life.
- Reduced stress: When you take the time to reflect on the good things in your life, it can help reduce stress and anxiety. Gratitude can help you appreciate what you have and feel less worried about what you don’t have.
- Improved relationships: Expressing gratitude can help strengthen relationships with friends, family, and colleagues. When you show appreciation for others, they are more likely to reciprocate and feel more positively towards you.
- Increased resilience: Focusing on gratitude can help you build resilience and cope with difficult situations. When you have a positive outlook, you are better equipped to handle challenges and bounce back from setbacks.
If you show gratitude to your partner, they are more likely to do the same. This can create a cycle of positivity and appreciation in the relationship that can lead to a stronger bond.
This is something that was missing in his relationship. Building a strong bond between people takes time and is a daily work. But if you think with your heart and help each other grow, the relationship will become stronger.
If you want to know more about how to improve your relationship, you can read my latest article about it here:
http://mytreeof.life/what-is-the-purpose-of-a-relationship-and-how-to-avoid-conflict
