Throughout my journey, I’ve come to realize that a relationship is much more than just two people coming together—it’s a reflection of our inner world. Every challenge, every moment of connection, and even every conflict mirrors something within us. For a long time, I sought harmony in my relationships without truly understanding that the real work begins within. It was only when I started balancing my own masculine and feminine energies, healing past patterns that I began to experience relationships as a sacred space—one where human love meets the divine.
The first essential understanding is that a couple has a dual reality: inner and outer. Internally, we each carry both masculine (active, emissive) and feminine (intuitive, receptive) polarities. Any imbalance between these energies within us tends to reflect in our external relationships. Therefore, to experience a harmonious relationship, one must first work on balancing these energies within. For instance, a person who is overly controlling (excess of masculine energy) may struggle to truly welcome and embrace their partner (weakened feminine energy). Finding balance between these polarities is key to a fluid and respectful relationship with the other.
Before seeking harmony in an external relationship, it is important to first cultivate harmony within. This inner union occurs through a reconnection with our inner beloved, which is a manifestation of the divine within us. By nurturing this connection, we develop self-love, wisdom, and inner balance, enabling us to heal past wounds and conditioning. When we are at peace with ourselves (our inner couple), we enter relationships without projecting unmet needs onto the other person or expecting them to fulfill something we are not providing ourselves.
Our parents often serve as our first unconscious model of a couple, shaping our expectations and behaviors in relationships. If this model was imbalanced (authoritarian, distant, overly fused, etc.), it can unconsciously influence our dynamics. Understanding these patterns is essential to avoid repeating them. For instance, someone who grew up with a dominant parent may either struggle to express their own needs or, conversely, develop a tendency to dominate their partner. Recognizing, analyzing, and consciously choosing to break free from these inherited models is important to building a healthy relationship.
Human love is often conditional, shaped by thoughts like: “I love you if you meet my expectations,” or “I love you if you prove that you love me.” True love, however, is a spiritual vibration, an expression of the divine within us and the other. It transcends ego-based perceptions of flaws and differences, honoring the soul of the other. In a relationship, this means learning to say: “You are not perfect, yet I love you anyway.” This form of love can only emerge when we open ourselves to a divine dimension, recognizing the other as a reflection of the sacred. However, human love is not entirely unconditional—on the vital and mental planes, it has limits. Only on the divine plane can love be truly unconditional.
A relationship should be a sacred space where human love and divine love converge. Each partner is a doorway to the divine—to love another is to honor the sacred essence within them. This perspective transforms relationships: instead of seeking to possess or control, we learn to respect, support, and uplift each other. By nurturing this sacred connection, the couple becomes a path to a deeper union with life and the divine.
